Wonder why you don’t get certain things accomplished? Why you hit the same obstacles every time?
It comes down to a simple phrase one of my clients so eloquently related to me the other day:
“I know the little games I play with myself.”
You see, we all play games in our head. I know of no one who has a personality which is so buttoned up that they perform at optimum efficiency. We think we know some people like that — but the real truth is — they play games too.
The secret is knowing what the games are and why we do it. It’s the what and the why that will deliver the insight you need to move past these games.
What games am I speaking of?
Do you dodge people at work? Do you procrastinate on important things? Do you show up late to appointments and meetings? Do you let important and timely decisions lay fallow until the ‘right’ moment? Again — we ALL do it. So let’s pick an easy one:
“I am always late on paying my bills.”
WHAT: “I don’t open bills until the last minute.” That’s the reason or the game we play.
WHY: We are afraid of having reality hit us square in the face. We know we spent a lot this month — now the bill is here and is waiting to be paid. But it might not be as bad as you think. But you’ll never know until you open it.
And when you do — it immediately forces you to make a decision — where am I going to get the money to pay this? Or if I don’t have the money — I have to get it. I either have to work harder or borrow from savings. AND — here’s the best part — it forces us to alter our behavior to ensure it doesn’t happen again.
And that’s the hard part. But I want you to now place yourself in the spot of someone who opens their bills immediately, schedules or pays them immediately, and moves on. How does that sound? How does that feel? Pretty good.
So why aren’t you doing it?
Image provided by Philip Taylor PT at Flickr.